#i finally logged back into this

[secretagentspydetectiveninja]

posting this with absolutely no context

[doux-amer]

[susieandhobbes]

I see a lot of people hoping Syd and Carmy get together in s3 and like....y'all not yearners for real.

We still have to get through Carmy and Syd being on terrible terms for a while, Carmy working to rebuild their trust and Sydney spiraling as she feels like she has to carry the Bear on her back because she can't trust him, eventual reconcilliation, and then Sydney entering her own romantic relationship and/or being poached by another restaurant as her own star rises and Carmy being reminded/terrified that she could leave him.

With these dumb short seasons that's like 1.5-2 whole seasons of plot to get through.

See y'all in season 5 though! (Season 4 ep 9 if you're optimistic)

[elitadream]

I HAVE RETURNED!!! 💃🎉✨

[spockcock]

Actively disturbed by the fact Dan and Phil are t'hy'la (Vulcan word used to indicate people with a close bond; essentially translates to a combination friend, brother, and lover. Used most often to reference the characters Kirk and Spock as something like soulmates or spouses)

[ai-kova]

old somniumfiles piece from when I used twitter

[lizasweetling]

She figured out the best way to manipulate this Lackya to help in record time

[retquits]

📢 sh☼ps will be closed from april 10-17th!

taking a trip to get a dream tattoo!!! (and shovel poutine in my face :3)

☀ https://www.mkret.art / https://etsy.com/shop/MKRET ☀

[yourgamemasterthewhiterabbit]

Both my parents actually suffer from HORRID emotional dysregulation and are prone to snapping and going into rages. My sister is the same way tbh. I am now realizing this is why they are constantly baffled by the question of whether or not I am mad at them.

I don't have external meltdowns.

I could. I don't let it happen.

I keep my rage on the inside and stay pretty quiet about it. It's just as strong as theirs [physically shaking nose bleed from high blood pressure kind of bad], but like as a kid I saw how terrifying it was to be around [dad breaking dishes, mom putting our lawn chairs into walls] and I just internalized that I wasn't going to wear that anger on the outside.

So my mother genuinely cannot tell if I am just being quiet or if I am silently hearing the dial-up noises of pure rage. This has lead her to both making strong and confident statements like "You are a pacifist who would never hurt a fly U.U" but also acting like I am secretly dangerous maybe... It's because she has never seen me snap.

She knows what her temper is like [throwing chairs through walls], she knows what my father's temper is like [pick up child and toss out door], and she can tell I am being tested, but she doesn't know what happens when I snap or where that breaking point is.

Her -perhaps unhinged- solution to this, my whole life, has been to do things that should obviously enrage me or shut me down completely, like ignoring important boundaries, repeatedly, punishing me for expressing emotions or needs at all, etc... And then to constantly ask me if I am angry with her when I get too quiet [right after near directly telling me to shut up].

It has occurred to me now, they have never once seen me lose my temper, so they literally just can't tell if I am angry at them. My sister is easy, my mother fights and screams with my sister constantly, my mother understands this. My mother doesn't have any grasp of feelings or boundaries that are not screamed at her [apparently, and I fear my sister is the same way]. Her and my sister are close despite constant fucking fighting because they understand each other.

They are trying to get me to engage the same way and it is not working. I realize now that this has been hard for them.

I was so successfully taught to suppress my emotions, by being punished for any outburst, that rage quiet looks the same as any other kind of quiet from the outside. To them anyway.

I did tell her. For the record. I used my words. I did tell her very calmly that my response to rage, in order to avoid doing the things that terrified me as a child, was to simply leave [the autistic urge to GTFO]. When a situation or person causes too much of the dial-up rage noise, I simply extract myself from that situation, up to and including never speaking to a person again. I explained this calmly. I explained it calmly 100 times and I explained that I explain myself calmly as my rage response 1-5 [also pretty much every other negative emotion tbh], and I told her that what came next was me simply opting out and fucking off. I told her this. I couldn't understand why she never took me seriously, or why she never fucking understood.

I couldn't understand what made her like this.

But it's the same problem I have with everyone else multiplied by a factor of 10.

If I am explaining myself calmly, they can't understand that it's actually serious or that I am actually upset. ESPECIALLY because they read me as "female" and women "aren't that rational" so if I am not screaming and crying about something, which I never do, people assume I can't be upset and it isn't serious.

And then after having my boundaries ignored too many times despite having calmly explained how and why it's a problem [shaking inside or not]... I leave. I leave and everyone gets upset like this is unexpected behaviour, even though I told them 50 times that is how I would respond if they kept doing *the thing.*

And for neurotypical people especially, they are expecting there to be a disconnect between what someone says they need or feel and what their actually boundaries and feelings are, and they expect the latter to be demonstrated with emotions. Telling them bluntly you do not function that way somehow never helps?

My mother isn't just looking for normal yelling or a few tears to know I am serious, whether or not I do those either [I don't], she's looking for an explosion to know there's a problem at all.

Fucked if I know how she proceeds through life this way in general or if this is just her expectation of her own kids???

And I couldn't get why my mother couldn't read my emotions and didn't seem to think I have any. It's because she's testing for the rage limit to see where my 'actual' limit is instead of taking my word for it. Never the fuck mind that she could simply *not* test at my boundaries instead of letting me have them. Separate issue.

I couldn't figure out what made her *like this*

She's expecting me to throw a giant meltdown violent tantrum at people when I have 'actually' had enough. Maybe she got away with those being like 5'4" in another time, but I am the size of the average man, I do not get to have giant screaming rages, whether or not people perceive me consciously as a woman, and least of all because a lot of people -at least unconsciously- read me as 'masculine' or at least always "they guy" of the situation compared to all other women and some men [bigger stronger and more rational, more able to just absorb the damage and let it go so the less rational screaming/crying one doesn't have to be dealt with]. Even if it was in me to be willing to terrify people [usually never], there are such limited instances where it wouldn't just blow back on me. Potentially very dangerously.

I am going to be the quiet calm one. You are going to have to let me use my words, bitch.

So she kept ignoring my boundaries until I had to cut her out of my life, and she probably doesn't understand and probably thinks it feels sudden -after 36 long years of bullshit- abrupt and unfair.

But I told her hundreds of times.

I probably should have just screamed at her.

[taomubiji]

An official Nine Gates/九门 Weibo account was created by NPSS' company (x) They haven't announced what it will be yet.

[wizardperks]

*casts 10 million french knots*

[gwen-hemoxia]

gwenfishing

[please-dont-pet-the-okapi]

Bob Dylan Biopic's gonna have me turning into the guy who plays "Wonderwall" at parties.

[sforzesco]

GLADIATOR 2 TRAILER DROPPED, CINEMA IS SO BACK

[bromcommie]

Movies I enjoyed in 2024 🎬

Thanks so much for the tags, @somanywords @booksandabeer @burberrycanary <3 Sorry it took a hot second.

Rules: post 9 films you saw for the first time this year and enjoyed, brand new or not but that are new to you, then tag 9 people

There’s things to be said about how big a part alienation and loneliness play in much of this specific list, lol. Anyway, I can’t believe how few “new” movies I watched this year—or at least ones that I can actually remember off the top of my head. Travesty. Here’s to a better record in 2025 and a better habit of writing my impressions down🌞 (And tbh we’re already off to a strong start!)

For my own future reference here they are in watch order:

Mikey and Nicky (1976, dir. Elaine May)

All of Us Strangers (2023, dir. Andrew Haigh)

Rán dōng / The Breaking Ice (2023, dir. Anthony Chen)

Za danas toliko / That’s It for Today (2024, dir. Marko Đorđević)

Il deserto rosso / Red Desert (1964, dir. Michelangelo Antonioni)

Balkanski špijun / Balkan Spy (1984, dir. Dušan Kovačević, Božidar Nikolić)

Sing Sing (2023, dir. Greg Kwedar)

A Different Man (2024, dir. Aaron Schimberg)

Conclave (2024, dir. Edward Berger)

I feel like so many folks have already done this so apologies if I’m double tagging you! Gently and with no pressure:

@cowboyidiot @thankssaragorn @camcorderrevival @emjee @village-skeptic @bitchyblkqueer @dharmasharks @buckrogers @thisonesatellite

[solei-eclipse]

H. HOLD ON. I DIDN'T REALIZE S40 WAS STARTING BACK UP AGAIN HOLY SHIT